Ok, I know I'm not the first young woman to do this, but let me tell you a little bit about myself and the story behind this question.
I was an extremely bright kid. Because of this, I was pushed ahead in school and accustomed to always being "the youngest". I matured at an extremely fast rate to the point where my own grad class was too immature for me. I tend to hang out and get along with people much older than I.
I make more money than most people my age, I'm technically a double major in school, a semester ahead in school, and "partying" is not my idea of "fun".
So, the story. For the first time ever, I gave in to peer pressure and made a "tinder" account. I thought hey, why not, might be fun. Because I am 1.5-2yrs younger than my grad class, I lied about my age on Facebook when I originally created it, so tinder shows me as being "21" when I'm really "19". I met this awesome 33yr old. He is very sweet, respectful, and far from "pushy". We talked for months and I finally agreed to meet him in person. He treated me to a lovely dinner and we had a fabulous time.
The problem is, he assumes I'm 21 when I'm only 19. He knows I do not drink, and respects that, but he even states "21" is the biggest age gap he has ever dated due to his belief that younger women are still wild and immature. He likes me so much that he wants to see me again, but I feel guilty for not telling him my "tinder" age is incorrect: I honestly didn't think I would meet someone that I actually like and connect with.
What should I do, and how should I do it?
I'll feed into this peer pressure once more to fix everything :).
(Sorry it's long)
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Lying about your age is just about the worst thing you can do. Chances are, this won't recover.
Regardless... why do you want a 33 year old? Age is NOT just a number. That's absolutely silly when people say that. There are exceptions, but... at 19, I don't care how "mature" you think you are, it's not mature enough to be dating a 33 year old. That comes with A LOT of complications. Just don't do it.1
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