I'm a white girl and I'm in a relationship with my wonderful black boyfriend. The other day we decided to take a picture together and my cousin showed it to my uncle and my uncle called my mom to talk about it because he's against dating out of our race. My mom lied to him and said we're just friends, but I feel very uncomfortable with that and I feel like my family is going to try to break us up. My boyfriend makes me very happy and I don't want to lose him. What should I do?
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I have been in an interracial relationship for the past five years (my boyfriend is black also). I have experienced the same issues. An unsupportive family can certainly be disheartening and cause problems but I think you should talk to your boyfriend and figure out how he feels.
At the beginning of my relationship, I told my boyfriend straight up that my extended family would not be supportive and may cause problems. I told him that I really liked him but I wanted him to make the decision himself if he wanted to be in this situation with me. He decided that he did not care about that and he just wanted to be with me so we have been in a happy relationship for the past five years isolated from certain members of my family but it does not bother either of us.
So, ultimately, this is something both of you will simply need to discuss. People may say your family's opinions do not matter but that entirely depends on the individual. Some people care more about their family's opinions than being with who they want. So, this is also something you will need to figure out yourself. A family who is against your relationship can be hard to deal with but if you both love each other and you both are willing to deal with those problems for the length of your relationship, then I think you should stay together.3