The question says it all. Due to the rise of feminism in recent years and changes in gender roles, it has become ridiculously difficult for a man to earn a woman's affection. This is compounded by the fact that women usually don't have to put in efforts to fine a partner. They can just sit around without raising a finger, and they get asked out by men left and right, so that they can 'pick and choose' the best among them while rejecting the others.
But for a man, even if he has a lot of desirable characteristics, he has to compete with other men who may be better than him, in order to gain a particular woman's love. And there's no way for any man to know how better (or worse) the other men competing for the same woman are. The only possible exceptions may be some highly privileged men who are gifted with extreme good looks, tremendous wealth, or something else which makes them 'stand out' from the 'ordinary' men. Agree or disagree? Both men and women can answer the poll and give your opinions.
P. S. I'm not talking about getting women to agree for one night stands or friends with benefits, because those aren't difficult at all. I'm referring to men who would like to earn a woman's love and affection more on an emotional level (rather than physical), and for long term.
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Most Helpful Girl
I'm not sure why some guys have this idea that dating isn't hard for women. I've probably made the first move as many times as I've had guys approach me, and I've been rejected. Maybe there are women who just sit back and wait for guys to line up, but I highly doubt that it's the norm. At no point in my life have I ever known a woman who had it that easy when it came to relationships. Dating is hard in general, it's not gender-specific.3
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Most Helpful Guy
Perhaps. Some of this has been written about and there are web sites that attract men who are sort of fed up with the idea of women who put men through various "shit" tests to determine if the guy is even worthwhile. Sites like Men Going Their Own Way, Nomarriage, and EternalBachelor have popped up for very real reasons. Books have appeared on the subject and go by names like "Manning Up" by Kay Hymowitz and "Man Down" by Dan Abrams. Some of the arguments put forth in these books are straightforward and simple and others more complicated.
One of the stated arguments is that women have gained and are still gaining equality. Women are in organized sports, gyms, board rooms, medicine, law, and they are CEOs and run for president of the United States. There is strong evidence that women outnumber men attending college and universities located in major cities. Yet when it comes to romance women are not so sure about equal roles. They still want men to take the lead and there are lots of men who are disgusted by the duplicity of it. A guy's point of view might go something like this --- I am the one who is supposed to approach, strike up a conversation, ask for the first date, pay for the first date, lean forward for the first kiss, ask and pay for the second date, take the lead on sex, buy the first present, ask her to be my GF, buy a ring and get down on one knee --- like WTF?
No doubt that it can be confusing for young men in this generation to find a woman when more and more of them have become self-sufficient. Perhaps women are becoming much more picky and materialistic. I don't know, but I have read about it and one take-away I have is that it might be tougher for a guy these days to find romance. Like I said the arguments are long and complicated, but I suspect some of what you are saying is true.1