I've never had a boyfriend and the fact that I'm 23 makes me feel like such a loser.
This might sound arrogant but I'm attractive and generally don't have a problem getting guys to ask me out. Unfortunately, most of them haven't been such nice guys and I'd rather avoid jerks.
I've only been on a few dates.
I have such little experience in the dating scene that the thought of dating or have a bf kind of scares me. I feel like most guys wouldn't want to be with someone like me and that makes me want to avoid dating which only adds to my inexperience.
I know I'm putting myself through this cycle and I don't know what to do.
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Wouldn't say you're a loser at all, sometimes life just works out that way. The fact that you think you're attractive is a good thing, it means you haven't resorted the whole "I haven't had a boyfriend, I must be shit" mindset, which is A: wrong and B: not at all helpful.
I have a good friend who I think is at least decently attractive (bit hard for me to judge really) and he's never really had a girlfriend (he's 21). As far as I know there's nothing wrong with him, and our other friends and I are always kind of wondering why it is since he seems cool and normal to us. Sometimes it just happens that way, life can be weird like that.
Your reluctance to date is understandable, it's a pretty big leap from single to dating, there's a lot involved. That being said, if you want to swim in the pool you're gonna have to get in at some point. You can edge in, you can jump in, but you've got to give it a shot. Fortunately you're at an age where a lot of guys aren't really looking for anything serious. Also there are likely a fair number in a similar situation as you. Look for the introverts (we're generally great people, just a bit tougher to get close to).
Well done avoiding the jerks so far, I'd say if you're mostly getting interest from them you should change up your surroundings a bit. Join a club or get involved in something to meet people you share interests with. Explain to a guy who's interested that you aren't very experienced with relationships and if you've found a good one they'll be happy to accommodate/learn with you.
Hope this helped, feel free to comment/msg with questions. Best of luck.0