I'm a 24 year old female, and don't have a lot of confidence when it comes to dating, mostly because of my medical history. I think my dating range is about 25-40 years old.
In 2009 I was diagnosed with brain cancer and given 18 months to live. I survived that, and went into remission. My tumour affected my cerebellum, which plays a role in motor control. As a result, I'm a little uncoordinated and unbalanced, but it's not obvious unless I have to do something out of the ordinary. I also have a hand tremor, which means my hands shake whenever I move them.
When I had chemotherapy, my immune system became weak and I developed an autoimmune condition known as lupus (SLE). It's not contagious, and at the moment is causing mostly peripheral problems (e. g. rashes, sore joints, headaches), but does have the potential to affect my vital organs in the future.
This year, I had a recurrence of my cancer in my ovaries, but caught it quickly, treated it, and am now fine again. Otherwise I consider myself a fairly typical 24 year old. I already have two degrees in psychology and I want to use my experiences to help other people in similar situations, so am just about to begin a masters degree in health psychology, and hopefully then go on to do a PhD.
My illnesses have made me realise how short life is, and I try to live each day as if it's my last and enjoy each moment.
I'd really like to find a partner to go through life with, but I don't know if all of my medical issues are a problem for men. I'm in remission from cancer and my lupus is under control, but my hand tremor bothers me the most as it makes me stand out from other people my age. It is obvious when I eat, drink, hold hands with someone, or basically do anything involving my hands.
So, if you were interested in me otherwise, would you date me? If not, what would bother you? The cancer, the tremor, something else?
If you could please include your age, I would be very appreciative!
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Dating anyone with any kind of ailments is very tough. Your lover could easily become your caretaker at any moment in time and it takes a lot of strength for someone to make that sacrifice in their life to take care of the person that they love. Especially at a young age. One of the strongest women I know is married to a man that has Parkinson's Disease. His disease is so bad that he can't speak very well and needs to spend most of his time in the shade. Especially on hot days, and his hands shake pretty bad. Seeing what kind of person it takes first hand to be able to be with that person despite their physical conditions takes a lot of strength, love, and determination. If I truly care about the girl and was interested in her despite having hand tremors and brain cancer. I would have no problem being sacrificing part of my life taking care of the person that I love so that way their life could be better.
The cancer would be the hardest part knowing that it could come back any time and I could lose the person I care about, but at the same time I think that would make me cherish every second I am with that person more than ever and make my relationship with that person that much stronger. So, if I were interested in you I would date you. Although, apparently I'm too young since I'm only 23 years old.0