So my ex BF and I have been trying to give it a second chance the past two weeks but are hanging out more as friends to start off. We went to a party and he saw a lot of guys hitting on me (a lot of them much younger than him) and some of them made comments to him about me. I did NOT give out my number nor did I flirt back, I made sure that he saw that. He was weird at the end of the night and the next day he cxld our plans for Sat night with an excuse. When I tried to reschedule, he said he'd get back to me and has been acting like a pompous d***head! Uhhh... wtf?
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You're not just friends. At all. But you're not officially back together, so it's a sensitive time. Yeah, he didn't handle things well, but put things in perspective and cut him a little slack. It's not like he went off on you in some jealous rage -- it's that you two aren't back together and he got to see, right in front of him, what kind of options you have coming right at you. Too difficult to deal with.
Pretend he's a real hot guy, and you two go to a party and all these younger, prettier girls than you come up hitting on him. Hey, he doesn't directly flirt back and makes sure you know he didn't get any of their #s -- but he lets the hotties mingle with him and enjoys it. All the while you want to get back with him and are frustrated about this "gray zone". You're not back together -- if he wasn't out with you tonight, he would have gotten with another one of those girls and wouldn't be breaking any rules.
He has feelings for you. If I was him, I would have said "Hey, listen... the whole 'take things slow' by pretending to be just friends -- isn't going to cut it. We don't have to be spending every day & night together making things serious or anything -- but are we back together officially -- yay or nay? Can't have this limbo."
I think you need to think about that concept and express your feelings (don't fight), while telling him you understand how even without you directly flirting back or getting #s it'd make him feel uncomfortable as it would you... and that you'd like to be officially back together to cut through the hazy gray zone that's just going to make things more complicated.1
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