Hey there! I'm new on here but I figured that this seemed like a great place to get some opinions/advice.
For starters, I'm an average 23 year old. I would consider myself attractive and successful in my field. That being said, I have a "not so average" problem.
I have wet the bed periodically my whole life, it comes and goes (more coming than going here lately though). Doctors have said it's probably due to stress. I've been exhibiting daytime problems here too that have been diagnosed as urge incontinence, that has landed me in some terribly embarrassing situations. It really sucks hah!
I'm really embarrassed about all these problems and very nervous about mentioning these things to the guy I'm seeing, because I know I'll have to tell him eventually. I have been avoiding sleepovers with him but I can only keep that up for so long. And with the daytime issues... Ugh. On top of it all, I had an adverse reaction to the UI meds my doctor prescribed so he has suggested I use "protection" when needed.
I really like the guy I'm with and he seems caring and understanding enough but I feel like this is just such a huge turn off. And with the prospect of wearing diapers... I feel like no one would want to be intimate with me just knowing that. Any guys or girls have suggestions on how I should break the news, or if I should at all? Would you date a girl with these problems?
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To me, while it sucks for you, it's not something that would be a deal-breaker for me. An occasional inconvenience, perhaps, but something I could accommodate and adjust to.
But I'd definitely WANT TO KNOW, because I would be very bothered by the fact that my GF didn't want to spend the night with me. It would be a lot easier to accept UI as the reason than to imagine what she might be doing, or how she might be feeling, when she wasn't around, after knowing I wanted her to be.
So, IMO, tell him ASAP. Be honest, and while you should expect the worst (he can't handle it and breaks up with you), you can also hope for the best. But the sooner you get your answer, the better. If he can't handle it, it's easier to find out now than a year from now, and if it's not a big deal to him, then that's going to make your relationship that much stronger.1