There's a general overview in psychology that a narcissist is someone who:
-Believes they're better than others
-Fantasises about power, success and attractiveness
-Exaggerates achievements or talents
-Expects constant praise and admiration
- Believes that they're special and act accordingly
-Fail to recognize other people's emotions and feelings
-Expect others to go along with your ideas and plans
- Expresses disdain for those you feel are inferior
-Trouble keeping healthy relationships
-Have a fragile self-esteem
-Appear as tough-minded or unemotional
I actually agree with most of that and think my ex suffered from a severe form of narcissism. He always wanted me to do what he wanted without considering my personal circumstances. His track record of girlfriends (over 30 sexual encounters at the age of 25) and the photos he still keeps on Facebook serve his ego but also give the impression he has never been happy. He's always been the one to break off relationships. After breaking up with me he was soon onto someone else and has moved in with her within a few months. Added to that, he still tries to talk to me when he sees me about all his achievements and exaggerates things he's done. He will tell friends and colleagues about the fun and exciting things in his life but won't ask people about their day or how they are. He is very much all about himself and the image he creates for the public. Clothing, good food and objects and attractive women are what he cares for most but will constantly ridicule people who he believes are inferior to him. All this destroyed my self confidence and I felt like a lost soul for quite a while because it made me feel like I was never good enough even though I was told otherwise by people.
What are your definitions of a narcissist and have you ever met one who fits that description above.
I would love to hear your stories
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I was married to one and looking through the list you posted, I would have to say a big yes to the entire list. It is a huge emotional drain being in a relationship with a narcissist. My marriage eventually ended when I found out that she had been cheating on me with a colleague at her work for almost half our marriage. Simply put, the guy she was having an affair with said all the right things (for all the wrong reasons- all centered on her of course and she loved it). I was very confused when I found out. I always considered myself to be a good guy. I provided a lovely home, took her away on overseas holidays, planned special times together, arrived at home with flowers (very often, as I am a die-hard romantic) and always made a huge effort to center many a conversation on her. It is very tough to please a narcissist. In fact, if you are a regular person, it's near impossible to make them happy...
The most devastating thing about it all was when I found a document she had printed (basically a love letter to the other guy) where she made me out to sound like Adolph Hitler's "slightly more" evil twin... The person she was speaking about in her letter, simply wasn't me... Of course, now I realize that she made it up to justify and give credibility to what she was doing. She made it sound like she was an abused person who's husband chased anything in a skirt... which is so very far from who I am and how I live my life.
So yes, been there, done that... and would rather remain single and happy for the rest of my life than try and make (and keep) someone happy who simply lives their life by a very different set of rules...1