My girlfriend and I broke it off after struggling through the latter part of a month and a half of dating.
I wasn't sure of my feelings of her, and she also felt that the spark died out.
When I asked what I may have done wrong in the relationship, she told me that I couldn't communicate well. She said I should talk... about anything, it didn't matter. She felt I wasn't opening up very well, and she felt isolated.
I'm an introvert. I compartmentalize everything inside. I don't talk unless I have something good to talk about. I don't do small talk.
I could be called boring... rigid... closed-off. Some of that is true.
I'm an intellectual. I'm not accustomed to seeking out people, to expressing my emotions. In an MBTI sense, I'm an INTP.
I've also gone through some terrible experiences in the past that turned me off dating for a long... long time, and I have put up barriers to my heart and emotions.
I failed in the relationship, and I do hurt a little after walking away. I crave a meaningful relationship, but I don't think I can accomplish one. I feel like the Greek figure, Tantalus, where a relationship is in view, and I want one, but when I reach out it recedes and my thirst is unquenched.
There are several women who have shown me interested in the last year, yet I don't think I'm worth dating them as I feel things will inevitably collapse. I'm projecting a future of loneliness, and I think I should just give up on ever finding a woman.
What can I do to improve? Am I dateable, or am I too flawed? Would anyone date me?
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You'll need someone similar to you maybe or someone who accepts you the way you are. I kinda feel like you as i'm also an introvert, but with relationships, i understand that there has to be some compromising taking place at some point to ensure it remains healthy. Sometimes it's easier said than done, but when you find the one you'll know.0