I've gone on two dates now with the same guy, I kept an open mind because he seems nice. First date we met at a coffee shop, where we ordered water and an additional cuppa for myself. Thinking the second date will be better, I find myself in the same situation, same coffee shop waiting for him to other something when he still came back with water. Here's me thinking Chinese food would be nice. I haven't had anything to eat on both dates mind you.
I have turned down his request for a third date after telling him to put in some effort. I don't want to go on a cheap coffee date but I have found so many ways to tell him without saying it rude to his face and not to appear rude.
Even if he appears that he's just getting by, you know financially but I can't ask him that! Can I?
So am I too harsh? Or is it just still nervous after two dates? Or he's just a cheap ass that I need to cast away?
Most Helpful Guy
It's a little odd that you guys went of back-to-back coffee dates, especially with that being the only activity. I can see why variety would be nice.
And it's a little odd that he never ordered anything for himself either time.
With all of that said...
I'm personally a big believer in the idea that the person is what makes the date, and not the activity (or more to the point: the cost of the activity). If it were me, I'd base my decision to go out with him again on whether or not you had fun together, and whether or not there's some attraction there.
Telling him to put in some more effort and talking about him as though he's a cheap ass does seem pretty entitled and rude, to be honest I'd reconsider that type of thinking if I were you.2
- Show AllShow Less