So I broke up with my ex-girlfriend of two years, about 3 months ago. She was very abusive physically, mentally, and emotionally.. I was normally a happy person, but she was so mean. If I didn't think like her, then I was wrong and I was a horrible person. If I didn't do certain things, then I was wrong and a horrible person.
When I think of being with someone in the future, I get scared and think it's going to be the same as last time. Or that the "rules" I had to follow will rub off into that new relationship.. I'm afraid I will ruin my future relationships.. I just want to be happy with someone, but I'm so afraid of many things... Could someone give me advice about this?
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Don't worry hun, you'll find that girl out there, and for her to do those horrible things to you was not humane. I get where your coming from with the abusiveness, I was a victim as well because with me being so sort my ex-boyfriend would usually talk down to me or use 'punishments'. But that's besides the point when you feel comfortable with someone who'd laugh easily with you and treats you lovingly then you know it's going to be ok. Don't sweat it in the future someone who loves you will never do anything like that she won't even make 'rules' for you what you need is a sweet loving big hearted person who'd not going to treat you like her punching bag. It will get better (:0