Last night my boyfriend and I were talking and it escalated into a argument. Long story short, he went on telling me how he's only dated beautiful women and I objected. I pointed out one female whom he's dated who was unattractive. He immediately became insulted and went into rage. May I add, he himself admitted that her face wasn't attractive and how she only had a nice body. Then he started being a ass describing to me how she looks naked "nice ass, flat stomach, perky tits, etc." He started telling me how he's dated waaaay more prettier than me and I shouldn't think I'm so pretty. I then responded "so what, I know I'm not the prettiest women in the world as you aren't the most handsome." Then he went on calling me a hater and accusing me of being jealous because she has a big butt then told me how I don't have one at all. He also told me my boobs are saggy and how he has a hard time ejaculating during sex with me. Now let me say, I'm not one bit offended by his words. I'm very pretty and slim built (4'11" 103lbs) average weight for my height. I just don't understand what kind of man would say hurtful things like that to their girlfriend? We've been dating for a year now and he always tries to hurt my feelings but this was the worst.
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When he said that he dates only attractive women, he was suggesting that he is superior to other men, which makes him high-value, and that you are superior to other women, which makes you high-value. When you objected to his claim that he dates only attractive women, you forced him to acknowledge that he was not superior to other men. When he was forced to acknowledge that, he felt that he had been wronged, because he feels entitled to feel superior, so he decided to wrong you by taking back the sentiment that you were high-value and started attempting to break down your self-esteem, as retribution for the wrong you supposedly did to him.
He seems to feel superior, entitled, and has a hierarchical self-esteem (where he needs to feel better than others in order to feel okay about himself). These are some of the early warning signs of an abuser: www.psychologytoday.com/.../are-you-dating-abuser . As your relationship with him progresses, there is a good chance that the abuse will become worse and worse, escalating toward physical violence.
You would do well to end the relationship and study up on the early warning signs of an abuser so that you are less likely to make the same mistake of picking an abusive man.0