We've been Facebook friends for 2 months.1 month ago I started a totally friendly chat with him, as I really liked his art, and he liked mine. I talked to him maybe twice, we chatted for hours. Fun.
A month goes by he invites me to this gallery event, to which I went with friends. Met him in person, talked a bit, good vibes, even it seemed to me that he likes me a bit. Me and my friends didn't stay long.
Next morning he texted me to thank me for coming and we ended up talking for a while again. He invited me casually to this gig the same day, to which we didn't go but I was already curious about him. Couple of days later I initiated a chat, and again it was awesome. In the end I asked very casually when we'll get to see each other again. (Maybe it's a mistake, maybe not, he seems shy too) We agreed on Thursday.
Four days go by I don't hear from him. Thursday noon I got impatient, didn't wanna be that girl who sits at home and waits by the phone to know if and when we're actually meeting so I texted him. (For sure a mistake.. if judging by the book and rules and sh*t). He replied he remembers of course.
We met, it turned into a date, lots of eye contact, smiling, awesome conversations and communication. Spent 6h together. He payed for the date, waited with me for an hour to get me a cab. Somewhere in the middle of the date we kissed.
That's a guy who's only had one very long serious relationship (6+ years), hasn't had another for 3 years now, said he wasn't always ready to work on relationships. But in the long run of course doesn't want to be alone. After he kissed me I kinda freaked out on the inside, felt the need to tell him I'm not into one night stands. We continued the date as usual, but I felt stupid.
Anyhow, that was on Thursday.
Haven't heard from him since. I figured if at all, it would take him time, considering the facts.
Can't help but think that if he really was available, for me, he would have called or initiated contact by now.
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It sounds to me, as wise as I am, that being it has been 5 days and No word, as rude and crude as he has been, he is also giving you this 'Helpful hint' that he doesn't want to Start Something that he knows he can't And won't finish right now.
When he told you that 'he wasn't always ready to work on relationships,' however, 'Didn't want to be alone' neither, he may have been Hymning and hawing that he just wanted even a Friends with benefits factor. And with hearing what you had told him, he left things as they were----Last nite stand, and most likely 'Considered the facts' that Nothing was going to come out of Any of This. So he had a change of heart.
He was probably 'Available' as far as Another round meeting, but wasn't Ready for what he felt could end up a Real relationship, and he wasn't willing to go out on a limb and take any chances with you, even be bothered.
Being he has now put you on his pay no mind list, consider the source, move on to someone who does More than talk to your hand, and someone who wants more in life than even a----One nite stand.
Good luck. xx0
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