So I am a grad student working in a hospital for the summer for research reasons.
I have been on the dating scene for a while, but I am not sure how to handle this...
Yesterday morning at work, I met a really cute resident. He wants to take me out on a honest to god to real legitimate date and was willing to wait until the weekend. We talked over text a bit last night and am looking forward to.
In the afternoon, I was getting coffee and was in a huge hurry, and ran full tilt into another medical researcher in a different department whom I didn't know. I was of course super sorry (because I spilled coffee all over him) helped him clean up and he sarcastically said the only way I could make up for it is if I gave him my number. So I did. We chatted too and we wanted to do something "latter in the week or on the weekend" (which I realize is fine I am single), so I said sure.
But this morning the second guy turned me off. He texted asking if "... when I visited him if I wanted to stay over night". I spent a whole five minutes with him ever, and I don't want a hook up. So when I told him that he was like "no doubt we'll see ;). I didn't respond.
Honestly, if things don't work out with the first guy its fine ;) but its worth a try. I don't even want to try with the second guy though, and how do I tell him that, when I said we could do something?
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If you happen to Run into the 'Second guy' a Second time, simply tell him you're sorry for the 'Spill,' but you Still are not Into 'Hooking up' nor hanging out, thanks anyways... And even sending him a message, this Time with a 'Response,' would go even Quicker, getting you off the hook faster...
Just because you gave him your number, you have every right to change your tune, being he's talking about 'Hooking up." And with or with no implication of 'Hooking up,' you still have a right to Change your mind, even if it means just Hanging out. You're not obligated to him.
Too bad if he ends up crying over spilled milk. You found out ahead time what he had in the back of his Maybe 'dirty mind,' and Now--------You've got his number.
Good luck. xx1