When I first started this job this cute little shy girl gave me, or so I thought all the signs in the world. She would blush around me, act nervous, and fidgety. The real way I figured she was into me was that she knew my schedule and I'd run into her in the hallway all the time. Almost like clockwork. She'd just stare at me without saying anything. Finally I stopped her one day and she turned almost purple and was like stuttering. Lol.
Oh did I mention she has a boyfriend?
So for over a year now this girl and I have been up and down back and forth. We used to met "randomly" i guess almost everyday every other at least and walk and talk together. We'd do this a ton and then she'd go missing in me then come back and repeat over again. I started to ignore her and change up my schedule because I was so confused by her. I think I hurt her by doing this.
At one point I ignored her for almost 2 months and was cold to her. I'd occasionally walk up to her desk and try and talk and she'd do this too busy to chat barely turn around from her computer thing. I got the hint.
So we've been back and forth, but we don't talk like we used to. She has been skipping most of our work events, except one when I was out if town and she was sure to let me know how she went.
The strange thing I guess that u don't understand is like how she just won't seem to let me forget about her or something. We don't talk like we used to but she'll still show up in places I'll be at certain times. We chat a little bit but it's not quite the same. This is the part I don't get. She's not nervous really anymore like she used to be, but i don't know it's not the same.
It's like she wants my attention but it's weird. Wtf is this?
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Here is my theory :
Had a crush on you (boyfriend or not) and was trying to get your attention
Got your attention and started to make inroads
Was unclear of your desires
You avoiding her was maybe sign that she was being too pushy
Is still smitten with you but trying to provide distance because she feels she can't explore that path since you didn't want it
My advice : if you have any interest in this girl - make a move and find out. "Hey, I have two tickets to blah blah concert next week - I haven't seen you inawhile and though you might want to go and we can catch up'.
If she is really interested - boyfriend or not - she will probably go. If she blows you off - the crush is over... move on.0