Ok, I've got a couple dates scheduled, and I want to know if there is anything I can do to avoid winding up as "just friends". I have plenty of friends, and no matter how much I like a person, I am NOT looking for any more.
Any ideas on how to be taken seriously as a guy, and not be labeled as a "friend"? It has happened FAR too often in the past. I've had few girlfriends, but many girl "friends". Lately it seems like I'm stuck in this rut worse than ever. Any ideas?
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In my opinion, this is BY FAR the most important way to avoid sliding in to the friend zone:
*Don't act like you want to be her friend. Instead, behave like you want to be her boyfriend.*
When a guy ends up in the friend zone, it's almost always because he put himself there.
This means you MUST make a move to get physical by the second date. Everyone's timing and expectations are different for sex and getting physical ... but as a general rule of thumb, you should go in for a kiss by the end of the second date at the VERY LATEST. There's no magic moment, there's no single cue that she wants you to kiss her. You've usually got to just be bold and go in for it when it seems like there's a window of opportunity.
There's not necessarily anything wrong with opposite sex friends. But if she is NOT interested in you as a boyfriend, it's an insult to yourself to be her friend when you want more. So if she says she only wants to be friends and you want more, that means she's dead to you. Move on, and have some dignity. Don't flatter her ego if she's one of the abusive, teasing girls who'll give you crumbs enough that you think there *might* be a chance with her.1
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