I met this girl and she is nuts about me. I feel the same way too but I'm not looking to make a serious commitment. (I just got out of one). I'm always busy with work or friends or family and I haven't been able to give her very much attention. Like days without talking to her or texting her back. I tried to explain to her that my life is hectic and maybe its best if she finds someone else but she is a no go. I've tried everything. Telling her I don't want a relationship. She said she'd just wait till I was ready. Told her I wouldn't be able to see her for a long time. She says she'll wait as long as it takes. I tell her to find someone else. She says I'm the only one she wants. Other than flat out faking my death how can I break it off? If the "relationship" continues she's just going to end up getting hurt. I can already tell my life style is wearing her nerves thin and she gets mad at me when I don't talk to her or message her. I tried to tell her and she's the one that wanted to "work it out". But there is nothing to work out. I can't see her. She needs to move on and be happy but she doesn't get the clue. Help me! I've even been seeing other people. And I told her this. And still she can't move on and end it. Should I change my name and get plastic surgery?
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A girl like this is never going to get it. You could beat her half to death and she would come back begging for you (I am in NO WAY AT ALL recommending or con doing abuse or abusive behavior just showing the extremity of the situation) when you say I don't want a relationship she hears I don't want one right now but I will later and if you hang around it will be with you. She most likely would actually wait. It doesn't matter what you say she will skew it like that so the only thing you can do is be blunt and then disappear. She's not getting it because she doesn't want to you don't have to be mean but suit worrying about her feelings shell be hurt either wah but luckily she will no e to another obsession pretty quick. You can say something like look I don't want to a relationship and even when I decide I'm ready it won't be with you I don't have feelings for you and nothing is ever going to happen between us. Have a good life. Then tell her goodbye. Block her number and change yours so she can't contact you with another phone. People like this can be dangerous, make your life a living hell even without meaning to or both do not answer her if she messages you your gone you no longer exisit in her world if she does somehow call you hang up as soon as you see its her without saying anything else if you see her out don't even look her way she will cling on to anything for hope. I had a friend go through this and actually heard the girl say something about he must care because he made eye contact across a parking lot. I'm not saying shed try to hurt you or stalk you tho it is possible just that its the only way she will get it.0