I understand it isn't this way for most people, but for some men it really is.
I'm desperate and would legitimately date any woman, so long as we can have both emotional and physical intimacy I don't care about anything else.
I just don't want to be alone.
I literally have a 0% success rate though, no women are interested in me. I can't meet women through friends as all my friends are males who are virgins and social outcasts. Some ways I've tried and failed to meet women...
Approaching strangers during the day.
Joining classes (dance, yoga, languages).
Before anyone asks why its more a combination of factors than any single one, I just have nothing that women value. Little description of myself...
Below average height.
Face is unattractive (big nose, recessed jaws, severe asymmetry, receding hairline).
Shit bone structure (narrow shoulders, wide hips for a male).
Slim, kind of athletic build.
Somewhat intelligent, definitely top 10% of population, probably top 5% (not actually tested but I was among the very top students at my school, especially in maths, despite putting in no effort, not even doing homework or revising for exams, they even gave up expecting me to do any work by the end lol).
Mild social anxiety.
Lazy/unmotivated for anything.
Very little empathy for anyone but me and others in my situation.
Dislikes socialising (but I attempt it anyway).
Quiet/reserved, even around people I know very well.
Very few hobbies/interests.
No interest in pop culture.
Low paid, insecure job (although competency highly respected by colleagues and management, haven't been fired despite being late every day for the past month, sometimes by several hours lol).
No car or drivers license.
No post high school education (never attended due to depression/laziness and not seeing the point).
Very few friends.
Any ideas what I can do/change to get a girlfriend?
Most Helpful Guy
You have some fairly simple problems, actually! Well, simple in concept anyways.
1.) Self-loathe. You can't even seem to accept your own appearance and bone structure. Honestly, not everyone will find you attractive, but there is no definitive look that would ever be attractive to everyone. Basically, you need to at least somewhat like what you look like - you can't change it anyways!
Read my question at www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1029148-what-is-confidence-how-would-you-define-confidence for more info.
2.) "I'm desperate and would legitimately date any woman".
Nope, nope nope nope nope nope. You should only be interested in a relationship if you actually know someone who you think is worth being in a relationship with. Relationship means that you two mutually admire each other and most importantly, "like each other enough that you would rather live together rather than apart". For that, the perceived positives must outweigh the negatives. Basically what helps is being a generally likeable person, which is mostly achieved my not being a typically hated one. People who are hated are those that are negative and spiteful towards others and cause unnecessary harm. They're not trusted on short nor long term.
3.) You need to find someone who either shares a portion of your interests, or is similar enough to be compatible with you. I personally found my partner at university, because we were studying the same thing, and our personalities were fairly similar. It really is all about finding a *mutually compatible partner*. Considering you are an introverted loner type person, it's unlikely you'll find a person like thati n a place where mostly extroverts dwell (nightclubs, for example).2
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