About a month ago I met a guy on an online dating site and very soon after deleted my account for reasons unrelated to him.
He and I however continued to text daily and have since gone out twice. Both dates were amazing, he was a complete gentleman and paid for everything. After the second date, I spent the night and we ended up sleeping together. Usually I do not sleep with someone so fresh into the relationship, I like to have a waiting period where I can get a feel for the guy. But things with him just felt so right and still do.
He hasn't let up on the texting, which I almost always let him text first. And he's already set up a third date with me for this coming weekend. He's expressed an interest in wanting to be in a relationship with me though we haven't formally talked about being exclusive, and in passing mentioned when I meet [his] parents. We have a lot in common and always have fun together. Both of us have acknowledged on several occasions how comfortable we are with each other and expressed a desire to commit to seeing where this could go.
Then last night out of curiosity, I did the dumb thing of googling his username for the dating site he was on, and up popped his profile. Since I did that he's logged on three times so I guess I could say he's still a very active user. I was thrown for a loop and kind of upset for a moment, but I guess that I wouldn't have googled it if I didn't think it was still up. I've been burned in the past and do not want to devote my time to a man who still keeping his options open.
Which brings me to my question.. Would it be too soon to bring up being exclusive? Or I was wondering if putting it this way would be more appropriate, "So I'm not seeing other people because I am most interested in seeing where this goes and I was wondering if you were on the same page with that?"
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You have been on TWO DATES.
If you ask him about deleting his profile BEFORE you're even dating exclusively, that's going to be waving a huge, bold, red flag in his face that say "I'M FUCKING CRAZY".
Do not do this. Of course he's "keeping his options open" - things with YOU haven't GONE anywhere yet.
AFTER you've had the "exclusive" talk, if you see he's still actively using his profile, THEN you can bring it up.1