On GAG all the guys seem to think that if a woman recognizes the financial stability of a man that she's an automatic gold digger - least that has been what I have noticed, feel free to correct me.
Is it really so horrible if a woman recognizes that a guy makes sound financial decisions and has a good stable financial footing? Is it horrible if his financial stability is an attractive quality?
Now, of course, I would agree that if the ONLY thing a woman sees in a man is his financial situation, that is bad, but that's often not the case.
If a woman loves a man and it just so happens that he is financially sound, is she really a gold digger?
I'll use myself as an example. I met my boyfriend at a young age. He was young as well. I fell in love with him way back before either of us had jobs. I'm talking early HS here. Neither of us had any financial footing whatsoever.
Fast forward a few years and we're at today (3 years out of HS) and he's my best friend in the world and I love him to the moon and back and I just think the world of him.
Now, it just so happens that over the course of our relationship, he made the decision to pursue a law degree and become a lawyer. He has always made sound financial decisions and I can see a good future for us (assuming we stay together). Is it so horrible if I am able to acknowledge that his ability to be financially stable is an attractive quality?
It is obviously not the thing that keeps me around, and I loved him when he was dirt poor and I'd love him if he were ever dirt poor again.
I am financially stable as well. I work, I pay my bills, I am in school for a degree. I intend to pull my weight in a potential marriage/partnership. And yes, guys, I pay for dates 50% of the time :p
Now, is it so bad if I list off the reasons why I'm attracted to him and on that list is included the fact that he's smart with money and financially stable and reliable?
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Gold diggers want a man for his money, because they want things. They could not care less about his heart, or even his personality. As long as he has money they are fooled into believing it will make them happy.
Every woman needs or wants a financially stable and mature man. A woman who does not I do not feel will respect her man.1