I don't know, but like a lot of shy guys, I'm rather petrified of women still. But I'm noticing that it's not just me- there seems to be an epidemic of it. I mean, you know it's getting pretty bad when there were young men more willing to sign up for the war in Iraq than ask a pretty woman out on a date. I saw that Derek Jeter recently broke up with Hannah Davis. I mean 2 or 3 years ago she would have been jailbait for him! Another thing is that even though misandry seems to be on the rise, misogyny is still a real problem and I'm getting tired of subjugating women by viewing them as animated slabs of meat. I just hope that as I try to act like a real authentic mature adult again that some silly woman, be it professional or is spoken for, doesn't try to flirt and/or throw herself at me. It's all mind games and I know men do it too. I'm just tired of giving in and I need to be more assertive. Thankfully through dumb luck disaster has been averted each time. My only fear is, what if I'm not so lucky next time?
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I definitely think there are a lot of shy guys out there. I've been meeting some recently. I'm doing the online dating thing again and I am very open and social. I find it hard to really gauge if a guy is interested I me, as I like the guy to make the first move (I'm not afraid to make the first move, but I've had issues before being the dominant one and a guy just rolling with it and not putting in any effort. Then telling me that I was stupid for liking him since he wasn't showing signs, I just thought I was being proactive). Or at least make any move to show he's interested. It get's hard when a guy doesn't give you anything to grasp onto. So I just end up assuming they aren't interested and move on.
I know it's hard, I know it's scary. But here's the thing, I'm just as shy and afraid of the unknown as you are. So don't be afraid to make a move. Yes there are girls who won't be interested in you and will reject you. Rejection hurts! I know this too! I've been rejected myself. But the only way you are going to find love is to let go of that fear and to just embrace the situation.
At least when you are open and honest with a girl you will know for sure if she likes you back. Then you can either stop wasting your time, or get to explore all the wonderfulness that is love :)0