I'm dating a man I really like. He is a professional and makes a decent salary. However, his bathrooms are dirty, he has stuff strewn about, and the house itself is a bit worn down. No closet in the master bedroom, no curtains on the windows. My friends say I should picture myself living like that and decide if I want to keep dating him. I feel like that is shallow, but at the same time I wouldn't want to live that way. As a relationship develops, can these things be worked out? Or is it a bad sign of some deeper issue? I really like him and he's a great guy.
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Being he is a 'Date' for now And not a "mate,' you really don't have much choice in the matter, unless you either Accept it for what it is and how he lives, give him his walking papers because it's "Just too much' Or----Pick up a cleaning cloth and go behind him. And of course, I don't think you would want to Start That 'Bad habit.'
For now, for you are saying you 'Really like' him, close your eyes and deal with it. And if anything changes in the "Romance department,' where you have both decided to set up shop, Then you have every right as a soul mate to be a Straw boss, lay down a few Ground rules, telling him that-----I Will Not live this way, babe.
Yes, I do believe with a guy who is Not Mr. Clean that when a good woman comes into his life, he can be changed And----Will rearrange----If he wants to keep the fires going, keep her in his life and satisfied And-------Will bend over backwards with a broom to keep the honeymoon from being swept under the carpet.
Good luck. xx1