Should I reconsider dating a guy that asked me for bikini shots before the first date?

I met a guy a week ago and we exchanged numbers. We texted back and forth and made plans to meet up. Before the first date, he asked me to text him a photo of myself, along with some bikini shots (he wasn't kidding fyi). I was turned off and told him that I don't do that until I know someone better. The next day, I cxld our plans to meet up- he asked me why and I told him I thought his comment was inappropriate and that I am not looking for just a quick hook up. He apologized and said he wasn't either, and asked me to give him another chance. Should I give him another shot? Fyi - he is 38, so he is not a kid here...


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  • That was an uncool thing he did. Not good form at all. Red flag alert. Bad judgment about what's appropriate and what isn't. I don't have anything against sending those kinds of photos LATER in a relationship, but he was out-of-line to be requesting them so soon.

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What Guys Said 9

  • You can give him another shot, but pay very close attention to his language and his behaviour. Just dump him if he's any less than gentlemanly.

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    • I thought about it but he's already made a bad first impression... it's set the tone now unfortunately

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    • No I didn't say I'd give him another chance. I am going to text him today and say no.

    • Okay. Do what you want.

  • BEFORE THE FIRST DATE?

    Damn this dude is looking to fuck on the first date!

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    Any guy with working eyeballs can visualize a girl's figure with that girl wearing everyday clothing.

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    • I agree- this guy has quite an ego obviously!

    • P. S. I'm not saying it's bad for a guy to want to fuck on the first date; you personally just seem to be put off by this

    • Yes I told him I wasn't judging him- if that's what he's looking for, cool, but I'm not that girl.

  • No, he doesn't even know you and he's asking for that?

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    • Yes it was so sleazy - my instinct is to not give him another chance obviously, but I threw out the question in case people thought I was being unfair.

  • Sounds really creepy. I'd stay away.

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  • Ask him to send you revealing photos of himself. See how he reacts.

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  • well it's a big no. he's up for sex only. as he just missed his chance to see you in bikini, now he wants a second chance for same purpose

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  • sounds to me like he sees you primarily like a piece of meat!

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  • I wouldn't

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  • No. He only has one thing on his mind.

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What Girls Said 5

  • What a sleazebag.

    How many pics of different girls do you think he has?

    Lol I wouldn't give him any chances at all. Guy is 38, should know better. Seriously, that's fucking creepy as hell.

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    • Lol! Exactly he probably has a gallery full of them on his phone.

  • It's pretty obvious what he's looking for if he's asking for something like that.

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  • No, that's a rude thing to ask. Don't go out with him again

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  • Everybody deserves another chance. I say give him that second chance but pay attention to his behavior.

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    • I understand but he's already made a bad impression - that's hard to get past.

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    • Lol they haven't even met, and already second chances are on the table?

      Looks like the beginning of a shitty relationship.

    • met a guy a week ago

      How is this NOT clear?

  • Absolutely not.

    What qualities does he possibly have to recommend him... other than ya know, the fact that he is a pervy chameleon who is telling you whatever you want to here to convince you to meet up.

    No way. I don't know who you are, but trust me - you can do better.

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