I am 26. She is 29. We have been talking for a month, and we've gone out a few times. I like her, and she feels the same way. I have an issue though. She wants to come over to spend the day curled up on the couch and watching movies. I love the idea. I would love to hold her in my arms all day. But I am also completely freaking out over it.
I have only been in 2 relationships in my life. Both of which were terrible, and only one involved a very small amount of intimacy. I've literally had sex 4 times. Now, I'm experiencing a large amount of anxiety over the fact that this girl wants to get closer, and I'm just not ready. We haven't discussed our past relationships. She has no idea that I'm incredibly inexperienced, and that the only relationships I have ever been in were extremely rocky to say the least. Its been over 3 years since the last time I even went on a date. I have since spent my time working very hard to develop my career and myself.
I like her and I don't want to scare her away, but I feel like she needs to know that I will need time for things to develop. What do i do? How do I tell her?
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Let her know pretty much word for word what you just said. The fact that you like her enough to be worried about this in itself will be enough to make her feel special and you opening up to her with these things will only increase that feeling. It's a lot better to be straight up with her so that she doesn't have any doubts/questions when it comes to where/what you guys are.1