Okay so I finally told this guy that I liked him last night & when I asked him I need to know how he feels & if this is one sided he said 'I think a lot of you.' & 'don't be so silly of course I like you, just not enough for what you want though.'
Which is fair enough he pretty much said he has no intrest in a relationship or commitment.
Does this mean he has feelings for me but not enough to get in a relationship? Or is he just trying to soften the blow? Why can't guys just come out straight with how they feel?
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As you said, he has no interest in a relationship right now. He might like you, yes, of course, but that doesn't mean he likes you enough to want a relationship with you right now. I find it hard to believe that anyone will tell a guy or girl that they are truly in love with "I'm not ready for a relationship"... that's very contradicting. If you're that into someone then you're not going to find reasons or excuses to not be with that person. You'll be finding every reason to want to be with that special someone. I hope you see what I mean. I think it's time you move on and find someone who is as passionate about you as you are about them.
As for your last question, I think girls are guilty of this too. People don't want to straight up reject others cause they like to keep their options open. It's like a safety net of some sort. They know this person like them but they'd rather just keep their foot half in the door and give some pathetic excuse in the hopes to leave you still hung up on them while they can roam around and be free to date whomever they please. It's a ego boost. Knowing someone likes you and then knowing you have the power over them. Some people feed off this kind of attention. It's all a game to them.1