I've known this girl for quite some time and decided to ask her out, she replied with "I'm not ready to date right now". i asked her straight up "Do you mean it? or is that an excuse? Please be honest" and she told me she means it. Fair enough
A week later on Okcupid (i do a lot of online dating) i noticed she had a profile up! I had a friend who i told about Okcupid, message her. She doesn't know my friend is my friend.
They started talking a bit and i told my friend to ask her what she's looking for, she said "friends to maybe turn into something more" and later said "im not tryna rush into anything, but if i met the right person i'd date them" and "im looking to get to know somebody to eventually date right now"
So i'm a little confused. Did I not have a chance and she doesn't wanna DATE ME? Or is she looking at all her possible options?
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Hmm, well usually as bad as it is, girls will sometimes say that they're not interested in dating right now to guys, I've done this before, it's not that we don't like them and value them as people and friends but they're not someone that I'd want to go out on serious dates with etc. But, when you do find someone that makes you change your perspective you go for it. She could be honest about it, but from my experience we say that to not hurt someones feelings, and or because we're kind of interested in looking around some more.0
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