I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. He's a lovely guy and the relationship has been mostly good. However I have been feeling differently the last 6 months or so. I don't really know what it is, my only guess is its a mixture of constant bickering and sly comments from both ends and getting a bit statement in the relationship. I started dating him when I was 16 so he is my first proper boyfriend. Anyway, I started liking someone and work and he likes me. The whole work place knows and I feel guilty but I have been messaging him online and some have been flirty. I admitted to him I liked him but told him I was in a relationship so couldn't and wouldn't do anything. Last night he messaged me saying again that he liked me and my boyfriend saw it. I admitted that he had told me he liked me and apologised for not telling him but didn't tell him I liked this guy back as I'm not sure if I properly do. I ended up telling him how I felt about the relationship and we broke up. This morning he's been calling me telling me he's not going to give up on me and he'll try harder, but I know it will eventually go back to being the same.
I feel awful for flirting with the other guy. I know it was wrong, I completely admit that but I know feel like I'm hurting both of them by being so indecisive. I don't know what I want and I don't want to make the wrong decision. I'm such a weak character and don't like upsetting people. Any advice on what I should do now? Or from what I've said can anyone work out what I'm feeling? I definitely can't! I would really appreciate sown advice! Thank you x
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Just make sure you know that a relationship with the other guy might&will be COMPLETELY different to your "flirting" relationship, those always are exciting&fun. He might be a bad boyfriend, you'll find out in about half a year when the routine kicks in. I've been in the same spot, but it was just sort of a rave. A stable relationship means more, but for that you need to love your bf & try. If you don't feel like that being what you want, then even if it's going to be very hard to do, you should get the guy you like more. Anything else would be unfair towards your boyfriend. Or try kickstart your relationship again to see if it works better if you both work on it.0