Let's say you meet a girl and become friends with her. You are pretty compatible as you share a lot of similar interests. She also makes you laugh, smile, etc. Basically you feel comfortable around her and feel an attraction.
But then she confesses something to you as things start to get more serious - she actually used to be obese. She lost most of the weight but now she has loose/flabby skin in certain spots like her stomach and upper thighs. She plans to get surgery soon so she can feel better about herself, especially when naked and intimate with someone, but can't afford it yet.
I am looking for GUYS opinions especially because that girl is actually me. There is a guy I been friends with for awhile now and we seem to have a romantic interest. He knows nothing about my "fat/obese" past and how I have skin issues that I want to get fixed soon. But even though he has been the most amazing person to me ever, I am afraid he might get turned off the moment he finds out about this. :(
How would you GUYS be in this situation? Yay or nay?
(And if you must know, I went from 330lbs down to 170-75 lbs and I am 5'6" through just diet and exercise)
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Congrats on the weight loss, that is genuinly impressive. I don't think most guys would mind, a guy with a good heart wouldn't anyway. It might be unattractive to have flabby skin for the moment, but if you have feelings for someone it's very easy to look past their imperfections. If he is right for you, he won't mind.
Personally, I wouldn't really mind if I was in love with her. It definitely wouldn't be a dealbreaker. If she wanted to get surgery I'd support it but it wouldn't change anything between us.1