I'm 16 he's 20.. I live in FL and he lives in NY in the future I plan to study In Manhattan. He says that he really likes me. We both made a promise that when I do get to NY we would meet eachother and do everything together and that Is what scares me. But knowing how nieve I am I dont want to fall for him. I had'nt told him that he's my first boyfriend, although It's as if we weren't dating since it's through text. I've told him that I am a virgin. He always wants pictures of me and he gets mad when I don't send anythong at the moment he wants them. I've sent him a couple in my underwear but never nude.. he's sent me pictures of himself without his shirt on (he's so sexy!!)... a few days ago he sent me one of his private part and I got scared and almost threw my phone across the room. I have no friends I can speak to so I'm hoping someone will be nice enough to treat me like a sister in this situation.
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He's being pushy and I wonder if he's done this before with other girls (given that he's 20 and this is the age of the internet where all it seems anyone does is chat and send pictures instead of actually being together). His behaviour indicates that he seemed to have no problem doing this as if it's been done before. I also think it's rude to send you a picture of his penis when you've already told him you're a virgin, which most guys would want to respect and tread lightly with you, than push the idea and send you a picture of themselves. Guys don't get that women don't want to see pictures of penises the way they want to see pictures of boobs. They just think they'll send something that we want to see, and it's almost always wrong. Wrong timing, wrong girl. And the fact he's getting angry when you don't send a picture when he snaps his fingers is an indicator that he's not giving you respect or time to do what you think is comfortable for you, it's all about him. If you are fine with catering to him and putting up with this sort of attitude, then that's up to you. I know from experience that men like this don't change, they only get worse. Unless you stand your ground and make things clear what you want and it's important that he show you respect, then you have nothing owing to him. Then *maybe* he will realize what he's doing before his learned behaviour carries in to his 20s. By rights he's still young himself, even though he might seem older to you. He likely has little experience with how to really treat a girl and it's showing. If you want to be the person to show him how it's done, it's going to take patience on your end. Good luck! :)1