When it comes to guys, I usually fall for the ones who have similar views on life, way of talking etc to mine. That hasn't really worked out for me every time, because opposites attract. But I usually like someone with the same personality even, or who has opinions that are like me. Am I making the wrong choices? Or can this work to my advantage?
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First, this all depends on what you are looking for in a relationship as to what determines what you need to look for. There are 3 main kinds of relationships, "Attraction" (Fuck buddies only), "Connection" (Friends Only) and "Love" (Intimate) and each need different things. In the simplest form, simialarities create Connection and differences create Attraction (this is where opposites attract comes from).
To be fuck buddies, all that is required is attraction, differences between the two people that causes tension (taken as sexual tension) that seeks a release. Something to be "balanced". To be friends, you need connection, similarites the create a common ground between the two people. This is a very comfortable place and a spot where you can just "sit" in eg. just like you can feel so connected your best friends and yet not be attracted to them.
Love is the combination of these two elements, two people that have connected on such a deep level and that are best friends and also appreciate and respect their partners differences allowing them to share a huge amount of attraction also. "Lovers who are also best friends".
Extraordinary Relationships are formed when two whole people come together to create something more between them. We've all felt attraction to someone because we didn't believe we had that quality within ourselves. And in many cases this lead to be attract to your exact opposite... But coming from that view is coming from a view of "you complete me". Instead it is about finding someone who shares qualities that you already have and someone that you can also continue to appreciate the differences of.
Loving yourself and seeing that in others and loving others for what is unique to them. When two people like that come together it's now 1 + 1 = 3 and none of this "You complete me" bullshit. The relationship creates something more in between and thats the point of them.
I write a lot more about this on my site.