How badly do these men scare you off? Would you still even come close to consider dating him despite his psychotic and violent temper? What if he was just only violent to other people provoking him but never to his girlfriends?
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I've been friends with someone who's had a bad temper before. He had anger issues and I knew that technically that meant it wasn't his fault but it was just awful.
I was the person who fought against our college for him, pleading his case, and managed to get his place back for him. I managed to find him a place to stay, worked so hard and stressed myself out so much that it wasn't uncommon for me to burst out in tears in the middle of a class, and I basically did everything I could to make sure that he'd be able to learn and have a good life.
So after all that, you'd expect that he'd be grateful, right? Wrong. He then started to take advantage of me, criticise me constantly (a day didn't go by where he didn't tell me that I was stupid), and he would take his temper out on me because he knew that I cared about him. I was terrified to be around him, he made me uneasy and put me on edge. I flinched whenever he came near me. He got angry with me once for flinching, told me that I was a stupid bitch, and then punched the locker right next to my head. He was verbally abusive and bored on physically abusive whenever he felt that I'd offended him.
I know that that was a long message and that it probably didn't answer very much but it's just me trying to show that I'd had a friendship with someone with anger issues before. He never actually hurt me but his violent temper had huge effects on me and in the end, I had to make myself abandon our friendship because it was hurting me too much. That was just a friendship, I could in no way deal with a full relationship with anyone with anger issues or a violent temper because I'm terrified of people like that now.
So, to answer your question, I'd run a freaking marathon now to get away from someone like that.3
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