My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and spanning that entire time neither of us have ever hung out with our opposite gender friends alone. In fact he used to get angry with me every time one of my guy friends gave me a compliment or asked me if I wanted to hang out or go see a movie.
Well for the past week he's gone to hang out with this girl from his previous job that he's known for a year or so. He doesn't hide it, since he texts me and tells me that he's going on his lunch break with her, or that they're going to McDonald's, and he tells me what they talk about.
But I'll be honest-- I hate it. This is such a double standard, I put off hanging out with my guy friends and only see them when we're in a group with other girls and guys. There's only been one situation in the past 3 years where I've hung out one-on-one with a guy, and that's because our other friends suddenly cancelled on us. Plus I've never met this girl before, although apparently she's dating another friend of my boyfriend's, but just something doesn't feel right.
Should I be getting angry about this? I don't really know what to tell him, other than it makes me uncomfortable. But I feel like I shouldn't be telling him to stop hanging out with her.
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I don't think you should be concerned about any cheating. that's the first thing
but I do understand if your frustration is at the double standard. this is the inherent problem of trying to put reigns on friendships of your partner. you run the risk of testing those boundaries yourself.
I think you should first chill with the anger. it will get you nothing except stress. talk to your bf explain how this makes you feel. explain how he put the kibosh on you hanging out with male friends and how it is a double standard for him to hang out with this girl, whom you haven't met. explain that you trust him so that's not the issue but you do have issue with him not living by the same standards and rules he applies to you0