I used to get into a lot of fights in my early school years but had my act up in high school. I'm the type of guy who looks menacing and mean yet he has another side that a person, especially a woman may be shocked of. While I do have a mean side, I HATE to admit but I actually am a soft-hearted man who a huge cuddle bear (I'd love to snuggle with a woman and just lay on a soft comfty bed or furniture with her) that can show his true emotions when it comes to a woman. It usually take a very beautiful looking, kind-hearted woman who's a sweetheart to get me out of my typical side and more into my very nice and emotional guy side
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no. i am not attracted to people who don't respect others. i don't want a guy who is only nice to me. that does not speak well of his character and makes it seem fake like he's just trying to get something.
sure its great to bring out the best in someone b-c they care for you. but its not great if their best is being nice to me, and their regular is being an asshole to everyone else.
respect dignity compasssion are all very important traits to me.. im really beyond sick of this idea that being cool means being a jerk and getting a girl requires a bit of jerk a bit of nice.. im a very straight forward person i dont like games and i dont like bullshit.
if a guy has the confidence to be kind to people dpes not need to hide behind being mean to feel secure then i find that attractive.
i fond shy guy very attractive. a mean guy not at all. this goes for friends too. i like genuine people not pretense.
i think you feel the need to appear mean bc its the only way you can feel protected. you even say you hate to admit you're nice. why would you hate to admit that unless you see being mean as a plus. and as long s you see it as a plus you'll use it and won't really ever allow yourself to be a fully evolved h, n being. you're hiding atm. and that does not bode well for clear honest respectful communication. plus anytime there's a disagreement or you're not pleased you'll go back into bitch mode and NOTHING will ever get resolved.
i have a feeing that what yo mean by kind hearted woman is one who never does wrong and always keeps you smiling. so you dont have to resort to your bitch mode. but thats not reality. no one is perfect and you you're an adult... can not rely on someone else to create the perfect environment for you to act like a human being. thats complete dependency. not healthy for either of you to rely on her to bring out your humanity... its the same as relying on someone to be assertive or you.0