Normally I can handle it, but I'm having trouble with this one. I can tell he's already pretty invested in me, even though we just met, and that makes it harder. Also, I made the mistake of letting him surprise me with what we were doing, when I should have just suggested coffee or something simple like that. Because he planned this kind of extravagant date, dinner, movie, skating, walk in the park... and while I did have fun hanging out with him, I didn't feel any kind of romantic interest or chemistry. Especially not when we kissed.
And now it's also weighing on me that while I tried to pay for at least some of it, he wouldn't even let me (like seriously, I practically shoved my card into the cashier's hand and insisted but at his persistence the cashier put mine down and took his instead), and I feel like I owe him more because of that. I realize leading him on or being untrue to myself is also a really bad idea though.
He asked about seeing me the next day, and I said something about being busy with something or another, but we'll see, I'll let him know. He also texted me that he had an amazing time, and I texted back saying I had a great time too and wished him a good night.
I'm really not feeling a second date though, and I don't know how to tell him that. Dreading it, actually. Help please.
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yo don't owe him anything other than to treat him with respect and dignity.
you can do that by just being honest. 'hey that first date was nice and I appreciate the effort you put into it and taking me out, but I didn't really feel that chemistry was there and I don't want to waste your time. I'm sorry.'
then if he asks for specifics maybe just tell him about what you felt was lacking (chemistry, the money thing, etc).1