I'm not too thrilled about dating single girls who have children. I'm a single guy and don't have any children to my knowledge.
Maybe I'm closed minded and am letting my personal biases cloud my judgment. It can't possibly be as bad as I think it is... Right?
Anyways... I'm interested in reading your pros and cons.
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There's nothing wrong with how you feel because getting involved with a woman with kids takes a lot more commitment. If you're not ready to be there for the woman and her child/ren then it's unfair to her to think she has a future with you. She has to consider her children too, getting close to you.
If you feel like you are okay with getting to know a woman with kids, and feel like you are up for a lot more going on in your relationship and you can get past the fact she likely has an ex that will always be in the picture, if you can handle that and mature enough to accept it, then you will make one woman very very happy.
But nothing says you must do this. If you feel children are not right for you, or you are not comfortable with being an almost-step-dad, then you need to back off and let the woman and her children detach and maybe find someone else who will be. There is no wrong answer, even though some people you must accept the kids. You don't have to. You can choose to only date women without children if that will make you happier.
You can't help you fall in love with though and if you meet a woman and you can't help but love her for all she is including her children, then a lot of that falls in to place for you naturally because you'll want everything about her to be part of your world too. But if your love is merely attraction at first and you don't feel this way, then no kids is perfectly fine just to save you and her and her kids any ill feelings.
I personally have never been great with guys with kids - I am childfree by choice. Therefore my choices in the past have been child-free guys. The two I've dated with kids were not good relationships for me because I was not comfortable with children and didn't know it at the time. I love my adult-oriented life too much.0
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