I've dated three guys in my life as of now, and the last two said I was too nice and if I was a lot meaner they wouldn't have cheated on me, (but keep in mind I didn't want to have sex at the time) but I personally don't like to play games. I'd rather not have to struggle for power, I don't want it. I want to be about my business and him be about his but my bf now hasn't called me in 5 days and he said I call too often and we have nothing to talk about so we agreed he would call me but I don't know what to do. Am I being too nice or nah, haha. Serious question tho.
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I've had relationships in which I was the dominant partner and others in which I was the submissive partner (albeit a very stubborn one). Of the two cases, I've found myself preferring to be the submissive partner, or at least that my partner be strong-willed enough that I respect them naturally, rather pseudo-respect them at the behest of ideology.
One of my former girlfriends expressed a similar viewpoint to yours, that you dislike power struggle and playing games. I think she misunderstood though - it's not about subservience but rather the maturity to be forthright in your conflicts; it was not uncommon that the only way that I could bring to discussion a conflict that she had was to initiate a sit-down when suspicious that such a conflict existed. She lacked the will to bring forward and address an issue promptly and confidently, and that permitted such issues to come to a head before they were addressed. Perhaps this is not so near a case as I suspect.
Overall, I've found that a good partner is an active and forthright partner - someone who brings up issues as would a diplomatic, rather than as a rebel bursting out angrily after have sustained the conflict over a long period.
Considering the particular issue of calling too often and not having anything to talk about, I recommend you call at a limit of once per day or once per two days. Have a list of things you want to discuss prior to making the call so that you don't waste time or end up in the unpleasant state of being in a call without really discussing anything and those preventing yourself from doing something more interesting. Keep calls short - I'm usually able to have a conversation with a goal in about two minutes. A conversation about my day and asking questions about another person's day - 5 minutes. If a conflict is in discussion - 15. Anything much longer than this will create boredom, which will cause your partner to dislike calls in general.
Did you mean something else by nice?1