I've been dating this guy and I am starting to really like him but I don't really know where I stand? He told me that he likes me and he isn't just here for sex... He also told me he isn't talking to anyone else. He just has girls that text him every now and then but he said he doesn't text back. Now this all sounds so great if I actually believed him... Actions scream while words whisper! He tells me these things but he gets phone calls in the middle of the night he never answers he plays in a band and is currently building his house so he is always so busy but when he is here I feel like I have his undevided attention but when he is gone he takes hours to respond to text messages and we hardly talk on the phone... It was my birthday last week and we had plans for me to go and watch him play in his band but he texted me at the last minute telling me he had to rush over there because he over slept so he canceled on my birthday and ever since I've been kind of questioning whether or not I should continue talking to him... Is he playing me? He shows me affection but with all his other actions what should I believe? Does he really like me or is he using me for sex? And what do I do to change it?
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It sounds like he is not serious about the relationship or has way too much going on to really be in a relationship. Honestly if he was into you, if he really liked you he would make time for you. Even if he was late to his band thing why didn't he have you meet him there? Its not like it would have been that big of a deal.
If he doesn't like you back, or likes you well enough then you aren't going to change it. You can't make someone like you. And if he isn't looking for a relationship then he should say so. The girls and phone calls are something else that is an issue here. I mean i have female friends and if Im out with someone I will text back Im on a date or with whomever Im dating. But it seems to me there is more here than he is saying. Walk while you can.1
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