I don't know what to say when he gets like that. Maybe it sounds bad, but I'm tried of being reassuring. I've told him he shouldn't be so down on himself, he's a great guy, but it doesn't seem to matter. I think it's a bad habit he's gotten into - not thinking he's good enough, and bringing it up and making little comments/jabs at himself. I don't like it. He doesn't seem to get that I don't think there's anything wrong with him and he needs to just relax and stop worrying about everything. I wouldn't have gone out with him if I didn't like him.
I'm starting not to now though, because of all this. Is there any way to get him to stop being so self-depreciating, or should I just break things off with him (which I'd feel bad about... but I can't keep doing this)?
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he learned masochistic behaviors from someone who was probably abusing him. friends or family. maybe just himself. emotions are highly addictive. sad feelings are also very addictive. no doubt he's an addict. he needs to consistently reverse his thoughts eventually feelings of sadness will disgust him and contentment will make him feel full.
this could take a while..
emotions are like a whirlpool. sucks you in deeper and deeper faster and faster becomes harder and harder to get out of the current.0