I have a friend that I've grown really close with in the past year and we always enjoyed the time we spent together in school but now that we've graduated, we hardly see each other. The few times we text or talk over phone (which are always initiated by me), we tell each other we have to hang out again and I tell her to let me know when she's free so that I can set the day aside. She seems totally ecstatic at that moment but she never gets back to me at all and instead ends up chilling with other people and not telling me about her plans.
I could understand if she was trying to avoid me but conversations we've had really indicate otherwise. They're always very friendly or sentimental and frequently including her saying that she "doesn't know what [she's] going to do without me".
It has gotten to a point that I just want to know if she really still wants to hang out or if she just doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I'm about to confront her about it almost not caring what happens to our friendship.
Is she doing this on purpose or am I just overreacting? More importantly what should I say to her? All I can think of is "I wish you would actually make plans with me".
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unfortunately man there is two options.
there are strange twists of fate that prevent her from contacting you or hanging (dead serious)
she is being nice to you to please you and making like she loves talking but she wishes to be left alone...
you initiate all convo
shes not moving toward hanging out with you
shes hanging with others.
i'm sorry man it must be hard to deal with this but I dealt with a girl like this. it was actually a mix of the above 2. (mostly the 1st one) we are still friends but I cannot guarantee that for your case.
do not make it worse by persuing her. completely drop all contact with her for a day. then another day. until she initiates convo with you. avoid talking at all costs. but don't avoid making it available to her.
but go online so she sees you online
keep ur phone on.
good luck but don't get ur hopes up. I'm sorry man I really am.1
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