I dated a guy for a month. We met online. We saw each other three times when we dated. I really liked him a lot. We got intimate in our second date. It was a great. We enjoyed each other company he seemed to be genuine and really nice. he showed a lot of interest in knowing me. I told him that I had couple of bad dates with guys I met online. But he told me that he really wanted to know me as a person. things were going nicely. However, after our third date, he disappeared. I tried calling him, left voice messages, emails and text messages. He replied after a week telling me that he was busy. Then after couple of weeks I spoke with him over the phone. I asked him if he was seeing someone else. He said no. I asked him if he is interested to meet for a coffee. He told me he will check his schedule and get back to me. but couple of weeks have passed , I never heard anything from him. I have invested so much emotional energy into him. I am very much attracted to him. I feel so lost and heart broken. I am unable to concentrate on my work. Please help.
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The follow up date: He lost a bit of interest in you after sex. The fact that you disclosed your dating woes to him did not help your case either. In fact, your dating stock plummeted when you did so. As he likely felt that you were somewhat easy, needy and insecure. And, generally, the type of girl that can be duped fairly easily.
The third date: Prior to, he was on the fence about you. Then, during, he knew, right then and there, it was not going to work out. Thus, he gave you the old song and dance.
Never, ever, discuss previous relationship and dating issues with someone new whom you are considering dating long term. For it gives the impression of vulnerability and insecurity, which is perhaps icing on the cake to a guy that will use that information to take advantage of you. So, regardless of a guy's words, until you are absolutely certain of a his intent, you must practice caution.
The good news is... yes, the good news is... you will evolve as the result of your mistakes , and more effectively, follow your internal compass.
Thus, the challenge to win you over, gone. History! Finished! No more!0