We've gone on three dates, and I stress before each one. And after each one. Because this is so new (I'm 22 and have never dated anyone before), I over-analyze, and worry about showing him that I like him, but also not embarrassing myself. It actually causes me a lot of anxiety. I already suffer from social anxiety, and if any of you have ever dealt with a mental illness before, you should know it's not as easy as "getting over it" or to "just stop worrying". I'm wondering if it's something that I should just bring up with him. Like explain that I'm new at all this, and I over think things, and I get nervous, so if I seem off, I'm just stressing, or something like that... I just feel like I should explain myself so that he doesn't get the (incorrect) impression that I don't like him. Cause u do. He's kind, and funny, and great to talk to. I feel like maybe it'd be best to just kind of get it all out in the open, instead of unintentionally playing mind games with him. Communication is key, right?
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It's OK, I understand social anxiety.
You've had three dates, so it seems you're doing fine so far - if he didn't like you, he would have called it off by now. You're doing great! :)
I would try to explain to him, because like you said communication is important and you don't want to be putting across the wrong idea. Just explain, in whatever way you feel comfortable, whether it be face to face, written note to give him, email, etc., that you DO like him and so because of this, you're worried you'll mess it up because you've not done this before. Now, as someone else has already said, IF he were to ditch you because of that, that would just mean he's not worth any trouble. If he didn't mind and maybe even acknowledged how big a deal it would be for you to tell him, then it's all good because a) he still likes you and b) he understands you a bit better.
Good luck :) xx2