Why do women feel that it is necessary to talk about other guys, while in a relationship?
This is a complete turn-off to men. Any woman who thinks that this is a way to get our attention, or believes that this is a way to ignite our primitive drive to 'chase' the catch should know that for us men, it reduces trust, creates insecurities, and ruins relationships.
I have been with my partner for six months. Throughout the relationship, she has used comments, specifically during times of argument, that there are other guys that text her and who want to be with her.
Her: "Why don't you text me? There are plenty of guys that text me and give me attention."
Me: "Oh really? Why do you have other guys texting you?"
Her: "Why not?"
When I asked her politely to remove those numbers and send a text to those 'Other Guys', she would not do it.
Me: "Hey, before I leave I want you to remove those guys from your phone, and tell them you have a boyfriend."
Her: "No. Why? It's my phone, my life, I do what I want."
Me: "Do you know how that makes me feel? What if I had six other girls texting me all the time?"
Her: "It wouldn't matter, because you probably wouldn't text them!"
I have told her how this makes me feel in the past, the first time I ignored it, now the second time it has really gutted me. This whole time there have been 'Other Guys' texting her. I asked if she engages in conversations with them but denies it. She later admitted that she said it to piss me off and get my attention, but she didn't say that those 'Other Guys' never text her either.
Is she keeping her options open? She says she doesn't talk to them, but let's be logical, if a guy doesn't get a reaction from other women, he will stop. Right?
Is there a lack of mutual respect here? I would never do this to her.
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You must really like her because I would have ended this long ago. She clearly doesn't give you the respect you deserve. When she said its her life and she does what she want, you should've been like "Well you obviously don't want me" and that would've been the end of that. But yea that ain cool. I feel like if any other guy/girl is to be brought up while in a relationship, it should be the two of you joking about celebrities (take Brad and Angelina for example) that you assume you will never have anyway. Other than that, no. She needs to get over herself (No disrespect to your girl tho)1