It has been 4 days since my bf and I have had sex. We live together and have been dating for a little over a year. I moved in with him shortly after 2 months of dating. Which he asked me. We do fight mote then most couples but probably cuz we moved in to soon. We just got a puppy last Friday and she was sleeping with us for a couple nights. We didn't get much sleep as she wanted to play. So we were getting tired and decided we would put her in her kennel at night now. When I asked why he doesn't want to do it he says because he's tired. Which I am too but still have to have tI me for that. He has been tired before and we have done it. He gets hard ons alot. I would even touch it before going to bed and it would be hard but yet he still doesn't want to do it. What could be his problem? Is he maybe not interested in me anymore? I asked if he wanted to break up or me go stay at my parents for awhile and he says no.
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I agree with the below posts. When stress plays into a mans life, it can impact his interest in sex. This coupled with you moving in and bringing a puppy into the picture, which is basically like having a kid, brings on new responsibilities and stressors. I suggest you do not approach him with hostility e. g. "Why won't you fuck me!", the last thing you want to do is bring on more stress. Simply, be calm, find a quite time during the evening, and ask:
"Babe, I know we both have been really busy. Your working longer hours, but we haven't seemed to have the time to be intimate."
Let him open up, if he says he is "tired" then continue to probe him, and ask if there is something else that may be bothering him. You have every right to do so, and it shows him that you care. Often times when us men are caught up in our own world, we shut down and shut everyone out, this is our way of dealing with emotions. Be honest and everything else will follow.
Then just let him do the talking. He will open up1