Recently my boyfriend now x boyfriend as of today broke up with me and that hurt. I had my doors open to him at my house all the time for past 3 months of dating (together for 4 mos). I cooked for him and helped him out with money (he was out of work and said he would pay me back) and let him use my car when he needed it. I asked him over and over why he never had me over and he gave me millions of stories but never the truth. I asked him about a former girlfriend he had and he said he is not involved with her but strictly talks with her on business only (since they had a business together prior me). However she called my phone one day (I did not answer because he told me not to) and asked him why she call my phone if they are not involved. He told me it was nothing and yes she still has feelings for him but he only has feelings for me and not her. So I after that time My girlfriend and I did a surveillance on him and his house, I even found out he was living with an elderly lady...ok I made the mistake of going over there at midnight (yes now I know was wrong) but he always pops over my house any time of the night he wanted so I did back what he did to me. He also left a folder (I also found out he did not give me his real name on a legal paper his name is different than what he told me I asked he said none of my biz) in my car and I went through it because he never told me where he really lived and he found out later about that so he told me he cannot trust me (which I understand) and asked me why I did those things (I told him because he hiding from me and I did not trust him because he lied several times about his car situation/living situation)...if you guys think I am wrong then OK but if not wrong because he was hiding things from me would you have done the same? Now keeps calling and texting me like crazy for why I do not know? He owes me money and in good faith I went without paying my rent to help him. I told him now he must pay back and he told me I gave it to him but mad I asked because he said he would give me back in first place. SO I am thinking he wants me back? Should I work this out with him (yes I am dumb b that loves him) or just give him time he said I was wrong for not being patient with him and that is why I am loosing him...so why is he texting me and calling me every hour on the hour? Telling me he forgives me and wants to see me...what is up? He left his things and I told him to come get his stuff. What do you guys think? Move on or get counseling or both? Why he calling me after we broke up? He ask me if I am going to snoop again as he feels violated I told him no I don't need to and if he was honest from beginning and not hide from me I would not have gone to this extent esp if an ex of his called me. I just had to know so I did not marry the wrong man but fell hard for him because he made me believe that he would take care of me when he was in a better situation financially...so I was dumb to believe he would be there
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Sorry but I can't give you much hope.
Just ask yourself WHY?" Why did he hide his real name and address?
It's up to him to come back at you with a REALLY good explanation and with your money.
He owes you money? You're lucky if you'll get a small part of it back. (if he signed IOU's, you can try...but I bet he didn't.)
There are many more fish in the sea, think about it.