I've noticed this among GAGers, and my own parents were like this when I was young. They frequently said, "Just wait and be patient. The right person will come along." As I am older, I'm starting to question this advice. Now, as it happened my wife did sort of "just come along," but even then I had to put some effort into it, and I acknowledge my story may be more the exception than the rule. Other women I dated did not "just come along." I was actively seeking them. I have also noticed this is advice frequently given to physically unattractive people. I do not think they should "Just wait and be patient and the right person will come along." Probably better to advise them to do something to up their game.
So what are your thoughts on the whole "Just wait and the right person will come along [often when you least expect it or aren't looking]" line of advice? How effective do you think it is?
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I think people take that statement a little more literal than it is meant to be. You have to get out and meet new people. If you don't meet people, how are you ever going to find someone? However, there are some people who are just so desperate to find someone, and that is a turn off. People can tell when your desperate. I feel like as long as your meeting new people and living in the moment, rather than constantly only looking for someone to date, you'll find someone eventually.1