I've been on 3 dates with a guy, where we talk for hours over drinks. The last date we made out briefly. He texted me when he got home, saying he had fun. The next morning he messaged me asking me if I'd like to go out again that weekend. He suggested the movies or out to dinner. Unfortunately, I couldn't as I had a funeral and had to study. I suggested the following Friday and he said that was fine and understood I had a lot of studying to catch up on (in addition to working full-time).
We talked everyday (several messages back and forth) til Thursday (sometimes he would initiate it, other times I did). By Thursday evening, he still hadn't mentioned Friday. So I brought dinner up again, and he said, "Sure thing!". And started to suggest places to eat.
Should I have waited for him to bring up meeting on Friday? Maybe he was waiting for me to bring up to ensure I had interest in him?
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You did the right thing. Once you reject a guy in anyway, it's pretty much on you know to make the next move. If I invite you to something and you turn me down, regardless of the reason, I'm going to assume you don't want to see me that bad. If you did you'd over off a different day. So if a girl just says "sorry I'm busy doing...", he's going to wait for her to ask him out to see if she is in fact interested or was trying to blow him off. Honestly this is dating 101 for guys. Every dating coach will tell a guy to see if she makes alternate plans when has to reject his date due to prior obligations. Vice verse girls will instruct other girls to do this as a way of telling the guy that you do really want to see him, you are just genuinely busy and not trying to blow him off. Plus things like "studying" commonly seem disingenuous since they are not set and stone and could have been easily moved around.
By taking the initiate and making plans, you showed him that you are in fact interested in him. Honestly regardless of the circumstance, I think every girl should also be taking some initiative. It's just smart. Guys are human to, not some robots that are programmed to chase women at all costs. If we don't get a sense that you are interested we re going to leave. We are reasonable people who can expect to make assumptions based on a persons behavior, just as you do. What kind of message do you think it sends to any person, when you never initiate contact with them and you always wait for them to do it?0