Who do you believe should pay for dates? Personally, I think on a first date, the check should just be split since you both are just trying to get to know each other, I wouldn't want money to get in the way of that.
After that if you two are seriously dating, I think y'all should just take turns. Like I went on a first date with this guy I'd been talking to for a while and he paid for me since I was low on cash at the moment. The next time we go out I already told him I'll pay for. I think that's the most fair option.
What about you?
- Guy should payVote A
- Girl should payVote B
- Split the checkVote C
- Take turnsVote D
Most Helpful Guy
I think when you first start dating that you should pay for your own meal. Split the bill, but not evenly down the middle. She pays for what she ordered and he pays for what he ordered. I don't believe it should fall upon the person who ask because 9/10 times when a guy and a girl go on a date to a place that involves money, the guy is the one doing the asking. Most girls will wait for the guy to ask. Even if she wants to go. She may even hint that she wants to go out, but she will wait til the guy ask her out. If we follow the "whoever ask should be the one to pay" then the guy will be the one to pay 9 times out of 10.
So, when you first start dating I think it should be you pay for your own meal. I don't think it should be split evenly because what if I ordered a 25 dollar meal and she ordered a 10 dollar meal? Then we both have to pay 17.5 dollars? She would be paying more money than what she ordered and I would've spent less money on what I've ordered. But if I pay for my meal and she pays for her meal then it's fair. I pay for what I ate and she pays for what she ate.
Once the relationship starts getting serious, then you can start taking turns. Sometimes split it, sometimes the guy pays, and sometimes the girl pays.
Bottom line... I'm not going to spend money on a girl that I am just starting to get to know. The date could end up going bad and what happens? I pay for the entire thing and she gets a free meal? And the only reason is because I have a penis and she has a vagina? That's extremely sexist.
After the relationship is well established then sure, I could pay one day and she could pay the next. We already know we like each other and we're not going out to impress the other person. We're already passed that stage. We're going out to spend some nice quality time together and we know how to interact with each other to the point that who pays is irrelevant.1