Screw it, it's too hard, just too hard. I don't know what to do anymore. Everything about it is so over complicated, girls ask too much of me, I have my own issues right now, I can't give everything, because if I do, I want have anything. It doesn't even matter, when I give my all, I get rejected anyway. And they're not even really attractive girls, they're usually more like average or a bit above average if anything. I'd say I'd go for unattractive girls, but I can't force myself to like them (I've tried) and girls generally see me as nice looking before they get to know me I guess, that or I'm just a hideous genetic mistake that should be washed out of the gene pool. The rules of dating elude me, I don't know how to get confidence when I don't have much to be confident about in the first place, I can't just ask out a girl I don't know, in my mind that's flat out awkward, and it's hard for me to ask out a girl I can't connect with, even if they're attractive. Then, the ones I do connect with just ship me off to the friendzone, as usual. I'm pretty fed up at this point, girls are all too complicated, I'm wrong, I'm always wrong, it's always that I'm the next Elliot Rodger or some crap, so, whatever, it doesn't really matter anymore. For me, it was two failedsuicides that really got me thinking about all this, how stupid dating really is. Why should I go out there and meet people if I'll just get rejected? Ladies, knowing that girls are usually more emotional than men, why don't you see it from our point of view, guys are told "go out there, sure, you'll probably be rejected a hundred times before a single yes, but that makes all the difference", that's insane, who could have confidence after that, if that happened to you would you be so happy and positive? 10 rejections are bad enough, getting 1 yes out of 100 no's? I'd probably kill myself before getting the yes. So, screw dating, I'm a retard at it, I don't understand how flirting and attraction works, fuck it.
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feeling down on yourself huh?
here's a story. I dated a girl for about two years. after a little over 1 year we moved in together. it was at that time the best relationship I ever had. about 1 year and 10 months in I decided I'd buy an engagement ring. we'd discussed being together, marriage, the future, etc. it seemed about as good a bet I had that it would work out, so planned (since we'd be spending a year in Thailand together) to propose on some romantic thai beach. a month after buying the ring she went on a vacation with friends in Las Vegas, a trip I paid for as she was in college and couldn't afford it on her own. I trusted her and cut the cord for that weekend telling her have fun, don't feel obligated to call me every few hours... well she came back and things were weird from the moment she walked in. but she said things were fine and for a month we carried on. I found out a month later (from my friend who's gf was my gf's friend) that she had cheated on me in Vegas. when I confronted her she lied and said my friend was trying to break us up. Eventually she came around and told me. so there I was, a two year relationship down the drain, an expensive ring in my pocket (btw you cannot resell an engagement ring for near what you spent).
the point of the story? everyone goes through crap in their life. some people's crap is worse than others but crap is crap. there really is no sense in complaining about it and trying to get sympathy because everyone has their sob story. the best you can do is fall back on your principles and constitutions to move on and improve your life, as opposed to wallow in sorrow
try meeting girls in different settings, maybe online dating, or asking friends if they know people. but don't give up and don't feel sorry for yourself because neither will take you anywhere1
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