Why do men shut down in a relationship. Reasons I feel like he is shutting down is because decrease in sex, and doesn't show much love as much. We fight quite a bit and I have told him thay sometimes I'm not happy with him and I have thought about breaking up if he doesn't treat me better and show he loves me. Could this be a reason n maybe he is hurt because of it? Or maybe he is losing interest or cheating?
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I am sure there is more to this story, but going by what little you have told me, I don't blame him. Any man would shut down, or lose interest after a while if that is how the relationship has been. It sounds like you are going out of your way to destroy the relationship, and he is responding like any man would. This is what he hears when you say those things to him. "I don't like who you are, and that makes me unhappy. If you don't become someone else, I am going to dump you. Your happiness doesn't matter to me." The fights you have only reinforce this mindset.
If he is as bad as he would need to be to justify you saying those things to him, then you shouldn't be so worried about him losing interest in the relationship. So I am going out on a limb and say he doesn't deserve you being so harsh with him. I realize I don't know the full story, but going by what you have described, that is what it sounds like to me.0