If you still have feeling for them, should you ever get back with an ex who has cheated? Does anyone have any experiences positive or negative that they'd be willing to share?
I mean I still love him but it seems stupid to go back when he cheated on me.
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just let it go it's not worth it whether or not you have feelings for him. From now on if you weren't already before you are most likely gonna be nervous about every move he makes. who wouldn't be? If you're not with him or talking to him you're gonna be asking yourself "what is he doing now?" "is he still talking to that person?" etc. and it's a lot of stress.
I had my long term boyfriend cheat on me. I got back together with him anyways even though I was so hurt, pissed, confused & sad. It was humiliating because people at school knew about it because the girl decided to go and tell people it happened. I couldn't look at him the same way. I couldn't touch him and not think "you touched her too" Honestly I gave him a hand job and couldn't not think "is she better at it than me?" "can she make you cum faster than I can?" It was very damaging to my self esteem and I was constantly comparing myself to her in other ways as well ("is she more fun than me?" is she prettier than me?" "does he think she's a better person?") I was paranoid and nervous as hell constantly looking out my windows to see if I could see him walking to her house (she lived down the street from me) I cried all the time about it I was so hurt. I was trying to be a good girlfriend still but at the same time the memories of him telling me what happened kept coming back to my mind and I would randomly get so angry at him from the pain and lash out at him about it. It was so hard to trust him anymore, of course. I had feelings for him still but I couldn't completely feel the same way as I did before. Eventually I just couldn't take it anymore so I got my shit together, decided I deserved better than that and dumped him.
After the trust is gone in a relationship, there is basically nothing left. You can try to make it work again but what happened is always gonna be the "elephant in the room". It is so painful. It is possible of course to move on and feel better and regain your self esteem though.2